KNOWING THIS WOULD MAKE YOU HAVE A BETTER MINDSET.

I know it's been a while I did something like this here and its quite late for our "Better me" feature,but I couldn't just get my mind off this and I know I need to share because I might be helping someone. So I'm presently reading books and studying people more than ever (I'm no psychic) but there is something stopping most of us from reaching our full potentials and I want to talk about it to the best of my knowledge with  the little time I have and it is trying to conform to the "society norm".
  It is funny how many of us let our choice be influenced by people,environment and most especially our mindset, some bad things that have happened to us in life are brought about by our own choices just because we didn't want to break the society norm or go against the set down 'cool rules' don't get me wrong I'm not saying be rebellious but come to thing of it some people set down this rules and they can be twisted,changed,broken or even erased.

   There are so many things causing people to be insecure with themselves,most of them are vain and pointless...something as dumb as the natural hair trend craze among we females...oooh so because you want to join #TeamNatural you want to kill yourself with headache abi, I love natural hair and might go that lane someday when I find products that will soften my natural stubborn hair but I wont do it for the craze of it...nahh.
   Something else I need to talk about is BODY SHAMING,dear slim girls we don't even want to know if you starve yourself or its natural stop thinking you are better than someone because of the way they look...dear guys if you don't like her fat leave her alone,it's not a must you look and it's bad when you encourage her insecurity...some guys are so ruse they will just open their mouth and say to a lady "you look so fat" there are better ways to compliment sir. dear self shamer....until you look in the mirror and say to yourself I am beautiful the way I am you wont feel or act it,you wont even make an attempt to look it.

Funny thing is you are very fine the truth is that you are just trying to be someone else,probably look like that model or celebrity you have her pictures on your phone or that  Instagram model who has probably photo-shopped her flaws from that pic and you are there giving yourself stress thinking you are unpretty...newsflash! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE you don't have to perform to be loved and accepted,there is an underlying sense that is you don't meet a certain standard of beauty you don't have value,you don't matter,you are irrelevant,you are old-school or ugly. Lies we believe our appearance can be deadly and so difficult to overcome,we all know the truth in our heads and still wallow in the emotions of it...get up and make a decision to never let anyone of anything make you feel less pretty.

I know this is turning into a really long but but I also have to talk about HATE. Why hate someone simply because they have something you don't or because they are living that life you want..omo na turn by turn o,dear ladies because she dresses expensive does not make her a "runsgirl" and even if she is what makes you think you are more holy that she is?,quit hating...you want it?,pray for it and work hard because not all of us get things handed to us on a platter of gold.

Guys because you asked her out and she turned you down has given you the right to make her life miserable abi...or just because you don't know his hustle makes you think he doesnt deserve all he has,the world is in so much chaos already,and if only people would just learn to genuinely love and tolerate more I believe the world would be a better place.

I need to go to bed now, I'll continue later I hope I didn't bore you...drop your comments and let me know what you think,have a beautiful month ahead...#teampositivevibes#.