HELLO FABBIES!.
Happy new week,if there is any thing like that,my week already started on a not so good note but I know God is in control sha,is it anyone's birthday today?,happy birthday and make sure you let me know and i'l send adress where my cake will land.
Yaay!, Better Me is back and it is back for good,I had to take a pause for some reasons,and I dint even plan writing anything anytime soon but there are few people who have been on my neck about the feature,and one of them even told me to talk about today's topic INFERIORITY COMPLEX.
If you ask me I am not even in a place to talk about this because I went through that phase one time in my life and I literally belittled myself,I hated almost everything about me,was always comparing myself with others and all,that is story for another day tho.But since one of my ogas at the top has instructed me to talk about it among girls,but if we will hit the nail on the head even guys suffer from this thing,its just that it is more obvious with girls,I will try to make this short as possible so it wont get boring,feel free to add anything I forget to add,and let me know if you have a topic you want us to rub minds on.
What is Inferiority Complex? According to my dictionary it is an unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere, sometimes marked by aggressive behavior in compensation,it could also mean a lack of self-worth, a doubt and uncertainty, and feelings of not measuring up to standards. It is often subconscious, and is thought to drive afflicted individuals to overcompensate, resulting either in spectacular achievement or extreme asocial behavior. In modern literature, the preferred terminology is "lack of covert self esteem"For many, it is developed through a combination of genetic personality characteristics and personal experiences.Generally speaking an inferiority complex happens when there is something different about you that makes you feel inferior. Note that this will only happen if you regarded that difference as a disadvantage.
*CAUSES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX.
- Being called names like lazy or stupid by teachers and peers
- Being physically weaker than your peers
- Being handicapped while being made fun of for that reason
- Feeling ugly compared to your peers
- Being unskilled in something almost everybody is perfect at.
- coming from a lower social class than that of your peers'.
- Always being called names by parents; like stupid, idiot or fool.
- Being in the midst of people who always talk you down.
- Trying to fill in,then you will be in a competition who doesn't even know your name.
- Jealousy,hatred....in most Nigerian universities,if you dress well and seem to be okay,that girl you don't talk to or is noy your friend is at one corner calling you proud or a runs girl(I'm not righteous here).
- Being mocked for your skin color or a condition,in Nigeria a black country o,being black is a crime so bleaching is the new cool,but you know what,black girls rock mehn,I'm a black girl and i rock..(feeling pretty).
-NEVER LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO TALK YOU DOWN.
So all in the name of people knowing you belong to the particular clique or circle,you will lower yourself to be their shoe-shiner,hello! you worth more than that,even if it means changing your circle,I was talking with one of my girlfriends the other day about the kind of circle one keeps,if you have a friend who talks you down every time unfriend,defriend,disfriend(and which ever one) and delete the person, friendship is not by force,true your true friend should be your worse critic but there are ways to it,your friend shouldnt tell you everytime how big how head is instead of always telling you how beautiful the hair on the head is.
-LOVE YOURSELF,EMBRACE YOUR FLAWS.
You cant change yourself,why not love yourself with all the flaws and imperfection,concentrate on your strong and positive qualities,never refer to your differences as inferiorities,love yourself,you are special,every single person born into this world is wonderful in his or her own way,step out from your past,ive done shitty things to people and people have done more shitty things to me but we all have to move past that because we have changed.If you cant change it why not embrace it,stop trying to be like other people,love yourself dearly,appreciate what God has made you to be and the gifts and body he has given you.
-SELF CONFIDENCE IS THE KEY.
Gaining self confidence can never be over emphasized and I am still a work in progress myself,especially this generation where people live by what they see,some people have issues with accepting themselves and this result in unhappiness,fear,depression and low self esteem and so many cases have to do with body size,family background and the kind of company you keep.I was called ugly by a lot of people and I believed it and dint see myself as beautiful until i told myself I was,this affected me when I was growing up,you don't like how short you are,how small your bum is,how fat your legs are,you wish you had flat tummy and the list goes on,why don't you use that energy you use in putting yourself down into building yourself.
-THINK POSITIVELY OF YOURSELF.
Never believe you are ugly or less beautiful than others,stop comparing yourself with another person,stay away from any company that makes you feel you are trying to fit in,dress nicely because if you do you will feel presentable and not good about yourself,you do not necessarily have to be wearing a very expensive outfit,just be presentable and be beautiful,it is not what you wear really,it is how you wear it.
-LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF.
It is funny how much time people spend on googling about other people who they think is *perfect* then compare themselves with that person and their lifestyle,no one can be you,know your limitations and work on them,talk with yourself,be your best friend before looking for someone else,make God your solid rock,stop making people feel like gods in your life,try to always speak out,learn how to express yourself,learn to be independent and pray more.
Thank you so much for reading,i hope you gained something and you are refreshed.
Please share and leave a comment,till next week make sure you don't stop working on yourself.
Osheeey Tomi!!
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