HAVING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE CAN HELP YOU HAVE A BETTER 2017.

It's funny how not been able to sleep help me think wild and wide sometimes,I should be sleeping now because I had a long day yesterday but sleep has decided to stay far way from me. In the cause of my not been able to sleep I had time to reflect on past times,and I discovered how good attitude has made some people love and help me,how I had been rude to someone who could have helped me,and how people with negative attitudes just keep loosing out on the good things in life but they blame it on one thing on the other but never on themselves.
The truth is most people are faced with negativity each day and it’s easy to say you’re surrounded by negative people,but the reality is sometimes negativity is self-inflicted,it is influenced by the company you keep and your personal perspective on life’s realities.

Think how often you're faced by people who argue over money, worry about the possibility of failure, complain about someone’s actions, criticize mistakes, mistrust someone’s intentions, blame others to avoid condemnation, envy someone for personal achievements, and gossip about trivial garbage,and every other one,it's draining don't you think?
Let’s talk about some of the negativity that we face every day…

 ARGUMENTS Many arguments are the result of poor communication, the lack of open mindedness, or the clash of opposing values and principles. People also argue to force their viewpoint on others or just to let off steam.

WORRY: Others worry about losing control. They desire certainty in an uncertain world. These people feel that worrying is productive, even though they’ll be the first to tell you that they’re driving themselves crazy because they can’t get these thoughts out of their head.

FEAR: Some people fear the unknown. Just as pollution damages the environment, fear is toxic to individuals and companies. Fear encourages people to withdraw, keep information close to their vest, hide mistakes, and refuse to take risks. Whether their fear is caused by something real or imagined, perception is reality.

BLAME: Criticizing and insulting people in front of their peers, challenging their competence, demanding impossible deadlines, and cutting them out of the information loop are tactics that create negativity. Furthermore, when something goes wrong, people often look to others to cast blame. The result is that everyone watches out for #1 — themselves.

COMPLAIN:  The reason many people complain all the time is not necessarily because they’re unhappy with their lives or circumstances. The fact is, compulsive complainers don’t even realize that they’re complaining. Perpetual complainers grumble out of boredom or a desire to turn an awkward moment of silence into a conversation starter. Or sometimes, people complain just because it makes them feel better to vent.

CRITICISM: There’s a difference between constructive feedback and biting criticism. While constructive feedback is offered with good intent, constant and biting criticism can lead to stress, anxiety, and reduced self-esteem.

MISTRUST: How much time is wasted and how much ill will created as a result of mistrust? People spend endless hours second-guessing intent, peering over shoulders, and creating elaborate approval processes to check and recheck.

JEALOUSY: When is enough, enough? We live in a society where many people aren’t satisfied with their own accomplishments. If our neighbor buys a new toy, if our colleague receives a promotion, or if the TV celebrity flaunts a new design, we want it too. The problem is, after the excitement wears off, the finish line moves as well. Whether it’s affordable, deserved, or needed never comes into question.

GOSSIP: People gossip to fit into a group, fill a void in conversation, prove that they’re in the know, take revenge on a person, put someone in their place, or merely to gain attention. Gossip is a disease spread mouth to mouth. It’s one of those distractions that keep us from focusing on our own lives.

There’s a direct correlation between a positive attitude and better relationships, superior health, and greater success.
A positive attitude can boost your energy, heighten your inner strength,give you peace,make you a better person,leaves you relaxed, inspire others, garner the fortitude to meet difficult challenges. etc.
According to research from the Mayo Clinic, positive thinking can increase your life span, decrease depression, reduce levels of distress, provide greater resistance to the common cold, offer better psychological and physical well-being, reduce the risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and enable you to cope better during hardships and times of stress.

Here are several ways to adopt a positive mental attitude;

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WITH POSITIVE VIBES: Spend time with people who are positive, supportive, and who energize you. Remember, if you get too close to a drowning victim, he may take you down with him. Pick a positive person instead.

BE POSITIVE: If you don’t want to be surrounded by negative people, what makes you think others do? Learn to master your own thoughts. For example:

• When you visualize a goal, it makes you more likely to take the actions necessary to reach it. Visualize yourself winning the race, getting the promotion, accepting the award, or landing the new account.
• Control your negative thinking. This can be accomplished in the following ways:
  • See the glass as half full rather than half empty.
  • Anticipate the best outcome.
  • Stay the middle ground. Don’t view everything in extremes — as either fantastic or a catastrophe. This will help you reduce your highs and lows.
  • Mistakes happen. Negative people blame themselves for every bad occurrence whether it was their fault or not. Don’t let this be you.

THINK POSITIVELY: Be cognizant of and mentally,avoid thinking negatively,say positive things to yourself,choose to see only positive things in you,his will help you modify your behavior.

VALUE YOURSELF: Unfortunately, some people say the meanest things to themselves. If you criticize yourself long enough, you’ll start to believe it. This negativity can drag you down over time. It may be time to fire the critic and hire the advocate.

SET REALISTIC AND NOT IDEALISTIC GOAL: There’s nothing wrong with setting a high bar unless you beat yourself up for not achieving your goals. The key is to build confidence by setting realistic goals and by hitting a lot of singles rather than swinging for the fences,set goals you can achieve and not the ones that are not achievable.

SET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT:  Life is all about prioritizing  the things that matter most in your life and focusing your efforts in these areas. This means that trivial things that go wrong every day shouldn’t get you down. Learn to address or ignore small issues and move on. It’s time to sweat the big stuff.

LOOK OUT FOR OPPORTUNITIES:  Instead of letting challenges overwhelm you, turn them into opportunities,always be on the lookout for opportunities,and make the best use of the ones you see.

GIVE THANKS: Be grateful and give thanks for the special things in your life rather than taking them for granted. Some people do this by giving thanks around the dinner table, keeping a written journal, or posting one special item each day on Facebook. Remember, some of the greatest possessions in life aren’t material. Take every opportunity to make a wonderful new memory.

If you want to achieve happiness, better health, stronger relationships, and continued success, you may not have to look any further than the mirror. “The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. True happiness may depend on how you view the world and who you look to for inspiration.